David Morey 
Do you know what the greatest lie our society has told us? That there’s no “enough.” No highest peak. That saying “I don’t need to perform to feel good” is being lazy. This firm belief often becomes ingrained in us since childhood, when our parents always told us to learn and improve.
Most of us grow up believing there’s always something to improve. We should have a better body, learn a new language, improve our skills, clean our skin once again, start a self-improvement course about inner peace… Ask yourself: Have you ever felt like enough? The most likely answer is not. And that’s just how we’ve been raised. But today, we want to talk about a different side of living. Living without the constant desire to pick your “weaknesses” apart in a search for perfection and relishing it.
Quitting the Endless Race
Do you know that self-help books are among the most popular in bookstores worldwide? That’s because they sell us the belief that there’s something in us worth fixing, all the time. And so, by finding what that is, we will get the key to it. That if we learn how to manage ADHD just as some coach has told us, if we lose weight to a particular goal, if we get an Ivy League diploma, if we heal depression and never cry, we will be closer to perfect.
So, here’s the secret. Our desire to improve ourselves stems from the idea that there’s something flawed in each of us. That we can’t just exist. That the more we work, the farther we get from all that makes us lazy and imperfect.
We are sold this faux truth through social media and ads — through a new skincare routine or a diet plan, a new subscription, a new item that you just so need to buy. Most of the time, the idea that you have to get better isn’t even genuine; it’s just marketing. So why let this “never enough” mentality continue poisoning your perfectly comfortable life? Don’t let it win.
The Philosophy of Enough
Let’s look at an alternative to the busy and exhausting lifestyle that you, hopefully, plan to leave behind. What is being enough? You might be surprised by the real definition:
“[Enough is] as much as or more than is wanted.”
We associate the word “enough” with “barely good,” but in truth, it’s just the right amount of everything to keep us content.
When we finally accept that we are enough, we acknowledge that we are people who don’t have to push ourselves to do something just because we can. Our lives, personalities, all of us in our rich silliness and wonders, are enough. It doesn’t mean we don’t want to grow. It just shows that we love and accept ourselves already, without hoping to do so one day in the far future.
Instead of running after perfection, a person who thinks they are enough just says, “Stop.” Because perfection is a myth; if there’s always something to change and improve in ourselves, will there ever be a moment to halt? If so, is it even worth all the stress?
The key principles underlying this philosophy are:
- Self-acceptance
- Slower living
- Introspection
- Observation
- Acceptance
- Contentment
- Wholeness.
In a world where you are finally satisfied, every moment is an opportunity for joy.
The Line Between Self-Worth and Self-Improvement
It can be easy to confuse self-worth with self-improvement. They aren’t the same, though sometimes they can go in the same direction. Self-improvement has two types: toxic and sustainable. Toxic self-improvement leaves no room for error or rest. It is endless and serves to punish, not grow. Sustainable growth, however, is a healthy and fulfilling process when it comes from a place of curiosity or self-care.
Self-worth, the thing we place at the center of the “enough” philosophy, is your intrinsic value that exists regardless of how many medals you have and what people say about you. As highlighted in the muscleandfitness blog, you don’t have to earn your self-worth. It’s there just because you are there, too. Think about people you love; you don’t love them for how cool, bright, or beautiful they are — at least, that’s not the whole picture. They don’t have to prove their worth through success. The same goes for you.
Does it mean you don’t get to improve if you adopt a more sustainable method? Of course not. It just means that you do all of it when you want and because it benefits you. And if something goes wrong, you don’t judge yourself for it.
Looking at Our Imperfections
Your imperfections, no matter what type, aren’t there to be fixed. They are a natural part of you that don’t define who you are. Sometimes, we think they are bigger than they are — it’s like looking in a mirror for too long and finding more flaws in ourselves with every moment. Ignoring things you don’t like about yourself isn’t an answer, either. No, just acknowledge your flaws or vulnerabilities without jumping immediately to fix all of that.
Think of yourself as a whole person, with everything you’ve got. Most beautiful things in life aren’t ideal; a beautiful cup has a few scratches. A cat you love so much has an old scar. Even the trees around you have many broken branches.
Your wholeness just tells your story. All you have to do is listen.
You Are Already Enough
Repeat: “I am enough.” Do this as many times as you need. Relearning how you see yourself, especially when you have to be kinder and more patient, takes a lot of time. And you know what? You’ve got enough days for that, too. Whenever you struggle with appreciating yourself and fall into old habits, gently remind yourself that your value isn’t in successes or numbers. You are already valuable.
Once you stop pressuring yourself into growth, it will come naturally. The pauses you allow yourself will help you recalibrate without even knowing it, and you’ll continue your self-exploration with renewed joy and fascination. And when you stop? It’ll be okay. The path will wait for you. Whenever you’re ready.
